Journey to the Crown – Devin Grissom (April 2014)

April was an AWESOME month for me.

Between travelling 3 weeks out of the month, taking a cross-country road trip and meeting Miss Florida, South Carolina and Oklahoma USA as well as Miss Texas Teen USA (who FYI are all so friendly, hilarious and even though it is hard to imagine, even MORE beautiful in person)—it was definitely one for the record books!

Seriously though, so many amazing things to talk about so lets get started.

Week 1 & 2: Where in the world is Devin Grissom?

I love to travel. Period. I love going to new places, seeing new things and meeting interesting people. There is something so cool about wandering around a new place where you know no one. I also really enjoy going out to dinner by myself... Am I the only weird one out there?

Anyhow, this April was the definition of my ideal month because of those very reasons! It started out with a week long trip to Las Vegas for work. And then included trips to Austin, Dallas, Jersey City, Chicago and back to Dallas again!

I was pretty consistent while working all month. I got to go to Vegas for two big IT conventions; Dallas for the NCAA Final Four which is a dream come true for an avid sports fan like me; Austin for some really fun after-hours events (If you haven't been -- GO NOW! Rainey Street is the bomb.) After Austin, I hit up Jersey City (Mets game!) and Chicago for Barracuda Partner Conferences.

Usually, all of that travel would mean a major kick to the gut for my pageant-prep plan, but you guys will be SO proud of me! I did T25 every morning before work and ate pretty darn healthy while I was on the road this month (patting myself on the back.) Obviously no one is perfect, especially not me, but I am super stoked to know that I can actually control myself in the presence of a dessert menu. One small step at a time, y'all.

Another side note: T25 is the real deal! If you have issues with long workouts or are crunched for time in any way. This program will kick your butt in 25 minutes flat. Such a life saver for me!

Week 3: Roadtrip to Tennessee

IM COMING HOME!!!!! That’s right ladies and gents—Dev is heading back to Tennessee. Just to clarify, California was amazing and I loved every second of my year there. But sometimes there really is no place like home. Since I do travel so much with my job, it will be nice to be able to see family and friends when I am at my apartment (not often.)

It just so happens my road trip happened to coincide with the NBA Playoffs? Coincidence? I think not. GO GRIZZLIES! I'm thankful that I got to go to a a playoff game-- unfortunately the Grizz ended up losing to Oklahoma City but as ALWAYS, the playoffs were tons of fun and I love cheering for my team : )

So a little griping before I continue: I put my car in the shop for “routine maintenance” before I took her on a 2,000 mile roadtrip.

OF COURSE, the auto guys found a million little things to fix—a million little things to the tune of $1,200 buckaroos, sheeesh!

Driving through the middle of nowhere, USA

Finally though, the road trip got started! My Cali roommate and I drove through California, Arizona, New Mexico, Texas, Oklahoma, Arkansas and all the way to Tennessee in 2 & a half days! Talk about commitment.

We went through stages of fun (meteor crater in Arizona!), delirium (4 am driving into OKC) and absolute make-you-go-bananas boredom (has anyone driven through New Mexico and Northern TX? Just a tip-- don't.)

But it was aboslutely completely worth it when we crossed that Tennessee border. If you like adventures then be sure to make a road trip with a good friend -- memories to last a lifetime, trust me.

Week 4: Miss Dallas USA

WHOA! Talk about motivation. I knew before coming to help out with the Miss Texas USA prelim that Texas is SERIOUS about their pageants. But I was still in for a shock. All of these girls were absolutely stunning -- but they also had huge shoes to fill.

Jordan Schultz (Miss Dallas USA 2013 and 1st runner up to Miss Texas USA 2014!!) has to be one of the fiercest ladies I have every met. I had the privilege of watching her walk all over the stage like she had her own personal Beyonce concert going on in her head. Not only that -- she is SO down to earth and made me completely fall in love with her in a matter of 5 minutes. She will most definitely (IMO) be Miss Texas USA 2015. And lucky me -- I get the honor of rooming with her at Miss USA in Baton Rouge next month! We are going to have a blast cheering on all of our friends and planning world domination for the 2015 pageant season : )

Miss South Carolina USA, little ole me and Miss Florida USA!

The coolness doesn't end there, however. I was also able to get to know Miss Florida USA 2014 Brittany Oldehoff and Miss South Carolina USA 2014 Christina Zapolski -- and I must admit -- I was SO intimidated to meet. Because I mean... Look at them. They were judges for Miss Dallas USA and they definitely picked a good one. Congrats to Miss Dallas USA Lauren Kennewell and Miss Dallas Teen USA Brenna Flynn!

But it wasn't all fun and games though. I was there to help out my good friend and Miss Dallas USA director Will Henderson, aka "The Pageant Guy" and he doesn't mess around when it comes to putting together a pageant. It was my first time really working "behind the scenes" at a pageant and it opened my eyes to how much work truly goes in to it. I helped with rehearsals, running errands, and even cutting out on stage question fish for the fish bowl!

I was also able to fit in some pageant prep talk with some of the best people in the business. Thanks so much for the input Will Henderson, Beaux Wellborn, and Zac Grimaldo! Can't wait to come back to Dallas to hangout with you guys more.

April 11, 2014December 5, 2018

“Ask Alyssa” – April 2014

"Ask Alyssa" - April 2014

Q: Hi Alyssa! I’m Cassandra, and I’m a major fan! I want to be a pageant girl so bad, and I really want to model! I applied at a local modeling agency but they never got in contact with me! I was wondering, do you have any tips of how to start my modeling career and to actually sign up and place in pageants?

Alyssa: Hello Cassandra! My best advice for someone just starting out in modeling is to have someone take natural photos of you. No filters, no Photoshop. Do not pose or overthink anything. Just be you and natural. Have body shots and close ups. Have your hair down natural for a few photos, and then show the side profiles of your face with your hair up. Have very minimal makeup on. The most you should ever have is a little concealer and a light touch of mascara. Submit your photos to local agencies with your stats (height, measurements, etc). If you do not hear back, try another agency. Try again. This industry is full of “no” but after some patience, a “yes” comes along.

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Q: Hi Alyssa, Ill be competing in this year's Miss Texas pageant and I’m wondering what can I expect during the pageant weekend? What goes on during pageant weekend?

Alyssa: Every state pageant is different (as I learned when I competed in New Jersey and then later California), but they all promise to be fun. Usually on the first day, there are registration and arrival photos, followed by your private preliminary interview with the judges. Rehearsals tend to follow. Either later that same day or the next day, the preliminary swimsuit and evening gown competition takes place. Whenever you are not on stage competing, you are on stage rehearsing. Especially with a state like Texas, there will be a lot of contestants and a lot of choreography to cover, so pageant coordinators take as much time as they can to rehearse. The final day is the final pageant, where one lucky young woman is crowned at the conclusion of the pageant. The days are long, and your feet might get sore (check out my blog post on what to pack for pageant weekend here: http://www.jumpersandjasmine.com/fashion/what-to-pack-for-miss-usa/), but you will most certainly enjoy the thrill and excitement that surrounds you all weekend long.

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Q: Hello Alyssa! I’m a big fan from Brazil. I would like to know what was the first thing that you thought when you had your name called as the new Miss USA? Thank you!

Alyssa: Hello to Brazil! The first thing I thought of when I won was, “Wait is this real?” and “Oh no, what do I do about my car in valet?!”

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Q: Hi Alyssa! So, I’m Tracey and I’m 18 years old and I will be competing in my first ever pageant this upcoming August in Miss Texas USA. I am not trying to win, but I am definitely going to try my best, and was wondering if you could please give me some advice on how I can do well at this event? I am EXTREMELY nervous, but on a side note, the State Director did write on my application that I “should definitely do this and you are perfect for this!” So I hope that’s a good sign lol! I will appreciate any advice you can give me, I’ve been studying on this A LOT along with working out and eating healthy. Thank you so much! 🙂

Alyssa: Congratulations for being selected as a contestant! The best advice I can give you is to stay out of your own head. Do not let any voices in your head contradict. I know you have been studying a lot, which is great, but at the same time I do not think you should over-study. It’s always best to be completely natural because then you will find yourself the most relaxed. You won’t be trying to be something you are not. Judges are going to want to see the real Tracey. Nervous? Keep smiling! Guess what? The judges are nervous too! They have to select one winner for the entire state of Texas to represent them at Miss USA. Even if you do not go home with the title (which I have done many times), you will be able to walk away comfortably knowing you did your very best because you were YOU. Best of luck!

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Q: Hello Alyssa! I am a proud Campaneller! My question is a little personal. You and Torrance are perhaps the most ideal and THE couple I have ever seen! You both are always by each others side. He came to Brazil to support you during Miss Universe when you were having a tough time and you have always been posting about him and his TV series and always praising his success! Please share some secrets on how you maintain such a strong bond (which I pray will be there for another 1000 years). How do you handle your highs and lows in a relationship? Much Love 🙂

Alyssa: Aww, well I do not like to speak too much about my personal life, however, my best relationship advice that I can give is that it is very important to maintain COMMUNICATION. Being open, up front, and honest is key. It’s best not to keep any secrets (unless you’re planning their surprise party or something!). The more open you are, the less you will find things to argue about.

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Q: Hey Alyssa! I am about to compete in a Miss TX prelim. I have a tattoo on my wrist which was gotten in memory of my best friend who passed away. Should I cover up this tattoo for the pageant, or should I wear it proudly?

Q: Hi Alyssa, I just had a quick question. I'm running for Miss Utah USA and I have three tattoos on the inside of my left arm. I know that Utah is a conservative state but I would like to think that my tattoos would not define me. With that being said, would you cover them or let them be out? I am a strong competitor and cannot wait to be on the stage and apart of this pageant. Id like to think that the judges could see past these and see my personality. Thank you for your help.

Alyssa: Since both of these questions are similar, I will answer them together. Pageants always make a big stink about having tattoos covered up. While I personally see tattoos as art (my mother and sister have beautiful tattoos), some pageant judges and directors see them as a nuisance. At the end of the day, it’s YOUR call. Unless it specifically states in the rules that all tattoos need to be covered up, the choice is yours. If you feel your tattoos help show who you are, great! If your tattoo is in memory of someone and you want to proudly show it, great! If you answered any of those questions with no, then you have your answer.

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Q: Hi Alyssa, my name is Tyler and I am competing in Miss Pennsylvania USA 2015. Do you have any tips on getting sponsors?

Q: First of all I would like to say I'm a huge huge fan of ours!!! My question is what are some ways I can gain sponsors to pay for my pageant competition if I don’t have the money to do so myself? Thanks:)

Alyssa: Hello ladies! Sponsors are great because yes they can help you with all sorts of pageant fees varying from registration to your gown. If there is a certain brand or company you would like to partner with for sponsors, it is best to either call them or to send them a professional email, explaining you are, which pageant you are competing in, your pageant experience, why you are calling them, and why you are inquiring if they would be interested in sponsoring you. You can also ask to meet with them in person if they are local. Hopefully this helps! Good luck!!

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Q: Hi! Miss Alyssa, My name is Daryll from the Philippines. I am one of your avid fans since your winning Miss USA 2011. Being an American and a former Miss USA what is your opinion about LATINAS always making the TOP 5 in the Miss Universe? What do you think is the greatest edge of Latinas or even Americans over Asians, Europeans, and Africans?

Alyssa: Hello Daryll! While I cannot answer for any judge who has judged Miss Universe in the past, it’s no secret that the Latinas certainly know what they are doing when it comes to beauty pageants. And while I also cannot answer for any Latina who has competed (and placed) at the Miss Universe pageant, I believe that in Central and South America beauty pageants are one of the best and the top aspirations for women. I recently watched an hour long documentary on beauty pageants in Latin countries, and girls start at a very, very young age prepping for pageants and those preparations do not stop until they are retired former beauty queens. I think that might explain why Latinas tend to do so well at Miss Universe, but it could also just be sheer coincidence.

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Q: Hi, I am considering in participating in Miss California in the next couple of years and i have the following questions: How did you know that doing pageants was right for you? How did you prepare to become a contestant? What is one of your biggest tips to in becoming successful? Thank you for considering at least one of my questions and Alyssa you are one of the best Miss USA, I wished that you would have won Miss Universe because you deserved it.

Alyssa: First of all, thank you very much for your love and support. My start in pageants happened to be just by chance. I received a letter in the mail for my state competition due to my Seventeen Magazine subscription, and at the time I would do anything that involved me being on stage, which included pageants. I was also still in that awkward phase in high school and still trying to discover myself. My parents gave me the choice if I wanted to try to compete, and I figured what harm could it do? I watched my very first pageant just months before my state pageant, I got my gown at a local bridal shop, my mom bought me a nice swimsuit, and that was the extent of my prep for my first year. I placed in the top 15, which to me was a huge success, but I decided to come back and try again the following year and try to place higher. My best advice for success is to ask yourself what is success to you, and keep going. There have been so many times in my life where I have wanted to just give up before I have reached a goal, but then I realize I would not feel happy or successful if I just quit. What kind of example would I be setting? I hope this helps and I wish you all the best!

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Q: I got an open call for National American Miss (NAM) , what should I wear a dress or something I wear everyday?? What should I accept to be asked. I really want this. Thanks for reading this and I cant wait for your reply . 🙂

Alyssa: Congratulations! Unless otherwise specified in your pageant packet or rules, you should always dress a reflection of yourself. You do not need to always wear a dress. You can wear nice pants and a nice top and some heels. You should always go into any interview or open call as natural as possible. Everything will flow and come easy because you aren’t trying too hard or trying to be someone you are not. Best of luck!

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Q: Hi Alyssa! I wanted to know your tips on how to get “swimsuit ready” and did you have any “cheat days” when preparing!

Alyssa: Everyone’s body is different. My body is different than yours, and your body is different from the person next to you. I happen to have a super fast metabolism, so my cheat days are everyday (don’t hate me!). However, the best advice I can give to anyone trying to be more swimsuit ready is to focus on making sure you are getting the right amount of protein (usually 20-22 grams per meal) and vegetables when working out. Believe it or not, your body does need some carbs to function! I’m not saying to go and eat a whole baguette, but I would suggest against cutting out carbs completely. Having a cookie once in a while is not going to hurt you. My favorite type of workout for the body is Pilates, since it involves stretching and strengthening your muscles as well as keeping them lean and toned.

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Q: How would you suggest one should prepare for their pageant interview/onstage question?

Alyssa: My best suggestion would be to have a parent or another friend or relative constantly ask you questions on the spot, especially when you are not expecting them. It will help you to think on your feet a lot faster, making that “dreaded” preliminary interview and onstage question less dramatic. I would be swimming in the pool or driving my car when suddenly my mom would ask me a question out of nowhere to catch me off guard. We would start doing this randomly several months before any pageant. It did help me tremendously, and also helped me throughout my reigns.

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Q: What is your advice for doing TV interviews? I have a Persian pageant show on May 10th any advice for live shows?

Alyssa: Participating in an interview on live television sounds so nerve wrecking, but my best advice is to tell you to pretend the cameras are not there. You are just talking to the host. The more casual and intimate you keep it in your head, the more relaxed you will be. Do not think about the camera. Forget about them.

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Q: Hi Alyssa, First of all you are my favorite Miss USA to date, congrats on all your success, Ive always truly admired your individuality and how genuine you are!! I recently competed in the Miss Maine USA pageant and didn't take home the crown. I feel deep in my heart that I have everything it takes to be the next Miss USA but also was very disappointed. I know you competed multiple times to win California and I was wondering what kept you going, and how did you know you would succeed? Any advice and wisdom from you would be priceless and mean the world!

Alyssa: I can understand your disappointment. It took me two times to win Miss New Jersey Teen USA. Then once I did win, I did not win Miss Teen USA. Of course that can be a little heartbreaking. Then, since I felt that because I had competed in my state’s Teen pageant I thought that competing in my state’s Miss pageant would be just the same. But I was wrong. Twice I competed for Miss New Jersey USA and neither time did I win. One year I did not even make it to the top 5. When I moved to California and decided to try Miss California USA, I honestly expected it to take me a couple more tries before I would win. Hardly any California contestant had won California on her first try before I competed. Every time I had lost, I took comfort in knowing that everything has its time. Every heartbreak and every disappointment was a reminder that things in life are not just handed to you, even when you feel you deserve it. My advice is to keep going. Use what you feel deep in your heart to your advantage and not give up. Yes, it hurts when we try for something and don’t always get it, but use that fuel you forward. Whether the reward is the crown or something else, the disappointments you once felt will be worth it all.

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Q: Hi Alyssa! I am such a huge fan! I recently won Miss Teen Illinois Galaxy 2014 and I will be competing at the Galaxy International Pageant in August. I have very fair skin and I struggle with spray tans because it seems like my skin does not like it and it comes off quickly. The pageant lasts a week. What are some tips to make a spray tan last longer? Which kind do you recommend?

Alyssa: One of my biggest struggles during pageants is maintaining that darn spray tan! My best advice is to exfoliate exfoliate exfoliate! It’s best to exfoliate right before you get sprayed. Then limit your shower time. Do not use very hot water to wash, as it will help the tan fade quicker. Also when you step out of the shower, do not rub yourself dry. Tap yourself dry. I maintained my tan at Miss USA with Neutrogena spray tan (available at drugstores) that I would apply every other day or so when needed. I try not to spray tan my face – I rely on makeup for that instead. I hope this helps!

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April 4, 2014December 5, 2018

Journey to the Crown – Devin Grissom (March 2014)

Here she is—the (according to my mom) much anticipated MONTH 1 of Pageant Prep by Devin. As promised, I will be outlining the last month and the progress I have made to become the ever-elusive “pageant ready.”

I’m not going to lie, this month was a pretty slooowwwww start to my journey : /

Nonetheless--my overall goal for March was simple:

GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME DEV!

Getting and staying motivated for a certain purpose is difficult—no matter how far in advance, you always have that voice in your head saying, “this cupcake is more important than your life’s goals and dreams” (or is that just me?)

The trick here is to stay motivated every day and ask yourself with every decision you make if it will take you closer or farther away from your goals. A lot easier said than done so let's just start from the beginning….

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Day 1

About 20 minutes after my introductory blog went live, I had an OH CRAP moment that included thoughts like “Here goes nothing” … “Woo! I’m excited!” … and “I guess I need to throw away that Easy Mac in the pantry.”

Side note: I seriously got rid of the Easy Mac, which is a big deal for me. Usually the day before I start a diet, I eat all of the junk food in my kitchen so it won’t be there to tempt me anymore. Great logic, I know. Moving on…

On top of those profound reflections, I also realized that it was my birthday week. What better way to start preparing for a pageant than on your birthday?! (sarcasm.)

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MARCH Week 1 - MY BIRTHDAY WEEK!

Seriously though, the most depressing part about turning 23 is no longer being fully immersed every time Taylor Swift’s “22” comes on the radio.

I can no longer relate to her adolescent frivolities, I am a mature 23 year old. Sigh.

My birthday week went as birthday weeks go...lots of celebrations including wine and cake.

Therefore, I decided to put my "start date" off another week...

Bad idea.

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MARCH Week 2 - MY OTHER BIRTHDAY WEEK!!

Why was that a bad idea, you ask?

Well, after my official "birthday week", my parents flew to California to visit which is really awesome because--like I told you in my intro blog last month--my parents are my favorite people in the world.

Obviously they were here to celebrate my birthday and...

I HAD TO show them a good time.

In Grissom terms, a "good time" really means "good food and drinks" and "good food and drinks" really mean "unhealthy food and drinks". You get where this is headed...

I was planning on starting my "healthy kick" this week but the parentals had other plans and sadly--I did not object to those plans. We decided to take a whirlwind tour of Northern California which included San Jose, Monterey/Carmel, the famous 17-mile drive, Napa and San Francisco all in 4 days!

Good news: We had a blast.

Bad news: My "Journey to the Crown" was officially off to a bad start.

I told y'all that I would fill you in on the ups and the downs--my first two weeks were majorly filled with downs (pageant prep-wise).

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MARCH Week 3

GET. YOUR. HEAD. IN. THE. GAME.

Obviously just winging it was not the best option for me so I decided to create more of a structured plan for the end of March and for my preparations going forward.

After my parents left Cali--I had a good week at home before my next stint of traveling. This was the perfect time to focus without any distractions.

Everyone needs a baseline when they start a plan – so begrudgingly, I have decided to take all of my measurements and “before” pictures to keep track of my progress as I go along!

FITNESS?

My goal this month was to -- from this day forward -- start working out 6 days a week. No excuses. Even if I can only fit in a mile run some days, I will be active! In the past I have gotten in shape with typical gym cardio/weights, Pure Barre, Kickboxing classes and even the Insanity dvds.

This month I am going to focus on lots of cardio at the gym—6 days a week of cardio and 3 days a week with weights.I have always had a pretty athletic frame and can put on muscle pretty quickly. I would love to hear some suggestions from you guys on how to perfect the “long/lean” look.

I will also keep y’all updated as well in the months to come on what I am trying and what is working/not working.

Obviously with a gym routine comes a motivational workout playlist! These songs really make the time fly on the treadmill. Check them out!

Heads Will Roll by Yeah Yeah Yeahs
My Body by Young the Giant
Talk Dirty by Jason Derulo

DIET?

My goal for March is to give up dessert completely from here on out. This was not enforced in Week 1 or 2 because obviously I had to have birthday cake. I mean, come on, who skips out on birthday cake?

Although I did skip Thanksgiving while preparing for Miss Alabama USA—perfect example of GET YOUR HEAD IN THE GAME DEV! Thank goodness I wont have another birthday for 11 months so we wont have this issue again. Phew.

Also, I will be creating a food/workout journal to keep track of my snacking and activities. Even when trying to eat super healthy, it is easy to over-snack during the day or to not realize how many calories are in that green smoothie.

With a food journal, I will be able to keep track of calories in vs calories out. That sounds obsessive and weird but seriously it helps me (prime example: I didn't have on the first 2 weeks of March.)

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MARCH Week 4

Week 4 of March included a trip to BEAUTIFUL Palm Springs, CA. My company, Barracuda, had their 2014 Sales Kickoff at an amazing resort, Rancho Las Palmas. It was stunning, fun filled and majorly work filled.

I stayed up for pretty much 3 nights straight creating 'daily wrap ups' by 8am every morning. It was exhausting but honestly, an absolute BLAST. I had such a good time that I didn't mind staying up late and it didn't feel like work--I am so lucky to have a job that I love and enjoy.

Since I was constantly working this week in Palm Springs, I only had one day that I was able to hit the gym. As a slight compensation, I tried to do squats and abs while doing computer work at night.

I figured out this week that I need a quick easy workout to be able to do early in the morning or late at night when I am traveling--which I do quite a bit.

As a result, I ordered T25! I have done Insanity in the past and absolutely loved it. T25 is created by the same guy but it's made for people who don't have much free time--cha ching! I am so excited to start it in April : ) Of course, I will let you know how it goes.

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Soapbox

Now I just want to vent about some thoughts that have been bombarding my brain lately. Excuse me while I step up on my soapbox for a second (hey, that’s what a blog is for right?) --

Why keep trying? I hear this question a lot in pageantry and have really been facing this issue personally in Month 1 of my preparations. Here is my answer:

It’s easy to give up.

Some would say just giving up is easier than dealing with people asking why you keep reaching for a goal when you have already tried twice and failed. Obviously that means it’s not meant to be--right? What if I give it my all and still come up short? Is it worth it? Yes.

When these doubts start to sneak into my head I think of the ladies who have come before me: I think of Brenna Mader who competed twice before finally winning Miss Tennessee USA on her last year of eligibility.

I think of Ana Rodriguez who competed 4 times before finally winning Miss Texas USA on her 5th attempt and went on to place 3rd runner up at Miss USA 2011. I think of Crystle Stewart who also competed 5 times at Miss Texas USA before finally winning and going on to become Miss USA 2008. Both won in their final year of eligibility.

I wonder if it ever crossed their minds to “just give up.” Even if it did, these girls didn’t listen—and I wont listen either!

…and lastly, here's my final thought on pretty much everything about this post: 25 Signs Dieting Just Isn't For You

(Steps off Soapbox)

Let's hope that April goes more smoothly and consistently than March, lets do this! --and thanks again for following my journey! xoxo

March 14, 2014December 5, 2018

“Ask Alyssa” – March 2014

"Ask Alyssa" - March 2014

Q: I have a massive scar on my stomach following some serious abdominal surgery; is it best to cover it for the swimwear round? Ive been working out loads, and have a bikini ready for Miss Galaxy England on Sunday, but now doubting myself whether I should leave it, use make-up over it, or wear a one-piece!

Alyssa: This might sound crazy but personally I always like to see when girls who have visible scars on their body decide not to hide them. Each scar tells a story, especially one like yours that says, “I have been through things but I survived. I am here now.” I can remember the very first Miss Teen USA pageant I watched on television featured a contestant in the Top 5 who had a very profound scar on her abdomen from surgery and she rocked it during the swimsuit round. At the end of the day though, it is up to you and what you feel most comfortable with. But personally I wouldn’t let a scar hold you back.

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Q: Hey Alyssa. That's my name too. Oh yeah, we also share a birthday - I was born on March 21, 2000. How freaky is that? So, Im not fat or anything but I genetically have a large frame, and people always tell me that I have to look a certain way in order to win, especially in the higher levels of competition. I dont think thats necessarily true. Whats your take on that?

Alyssa: Hello there twinnie! I will say this now and I will say it again – there is no certain way you need to look in order to win. Whether you have a large frame or a tiny frame. Girls come in all shapes and sizes! As long as you feel healthy and comfortable in your own skin, it should never matter what your body type is no matter what level of competition you are at.

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Q: Since you were Miss NJ Teen USA 07, yet were Miss CA USA 11... why do you think you had to move to CA to win a Miss USA title? Why don't you think Miss NJ USA ever gave you a chance? Obviously it worked well for you in the end, but I found it odd how Miss NJ USA kept passing up on you.

Alyssa: Well honestly I did not move to California to win a state title. I moved to California after signing with a modeling agency (that I am still signed with today) in Los Angeles, and when I was told that I met the requirements to compete in California later that year I decided to just give it a try. I never won Miss NJ USA because it was not my time. Had I won Miss NJ USA 2009 or 2010 I can tell you I would not have won Miss USA. I am a firm believer that things fall into place at the right time for a reason. I was trying too hard to win in NJ, and now that I have had experience as a pageant judge I now know how much that can put off judges. For California, I stopped trying too hard. I was just myself and I felt so much more natural than before. But I was also older with a bit more life experiences and living completely on my own. All of that played a factor. NJ made the right choice by not crowning me when I wasn’t ready. The eventual winners were ready, and it was their time to shine. Things happen for a reason.

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Q: First thing you were craving after you won Miss USA?

Alyssa: Honestly, I don’t think I was craving anything! But I do know when I got to my new suite shortly after the crowning, room service left trays upon trays of food for my family and I and I DUG IN without hesitation!

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Q: Clearly you are one of the most beautiful women to grace earth (since you were Miss USA and all!!), Did you always have confidence growing up? Did people judge you during high school since you were a title holder/kind-of-a-big-deal?

Alyssa: First of all, thank you for the compliment! In answer to your question, no I did not always have confidence growing up. I was teased and bullied something terrible during my elementary school years, especially when I had to get glasses, and it continued when I got to high school. I was an extremely insecure girl. When I won Miss NJ Teen USA 2007, suddenly everyone wanted to be my friend. But I was not going to play that game. The only real place I ever felt confident was the stage. I was incredibly active in all of my schools’ drama programs and acting on stage as different characters gave me freedom and a boost of confidence (I actually started doing pageants because it involved being on stage!).

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Q: Seeing from your Instagram, you are always on the go. Are you a person who likes constant change or to be in a familiar place always? How are the cats handling it!?

Alyssa: I am actually a bit of both. I LOVE adventures and I LOVE to travel. At the same time, I am quite the homebody and enjoy being at home for a while. My cats are pros, though! They have been traveling with me since they were four months old (they are now approaching their 2^nd birthday!) so they started getting pretty used to it when they were very young. I can always count on Renly to feel at home wherever we are – a hotel, a new apartment, a family member’s house – within 5 minutes.

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Q: When watching over the pageants you've competed in, I've never once seen your hair up. Is there a reason for that or is it just what you are comfortable with? What is your opinion on hair up during competing? Do you prefer it being up for one part of the competition over the other (i.e evening gown vs swimsuit)?

Alyssa: At the time, I was not a fan of my hair being up. I didn’t like the way it looked on me (flash forward a couple years and now you can’t get me to stop wearing buns on top of my head!). I also happen to be a fan of flowing hair, but at the same time I think a bun in the evening gown competition is rather elegant and classy.

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Q: For evening gown competition what is the make up 'look' that everyone should aim for? Simple and 'hidden almost', or something that will make a statement?

Alyssa: I am such a huge fan of simple makeup. If the gown is pretty extravagant, I do not think the makeup should be heavy. Personally, I love neutral eye shadow colors, and if you wish to wear false eyelashes then I will always suggest individual lashes instead of strips because they look more natural.

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Q: When placing runner up (before even knowing you'd win the title of Miss CA USA) a few times, you didn't give up. Was there a certain person, quote, or internal thought that motivated you to keep trying?

Alyssa: No, I just wanted to keep going until I was tired of it! I had a lot of fun competing, and if I did not win a crown one year then I was determined to return and fight for it the next. Luckily my family supported me in whatever decision I made.

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Q: Hi Miss Alyssa! I am one of your fans from the Philippines. I just wanted to ask if there's a chance for a short girl to compete in some prestigious pageant. I'm Rica, I'm 15 and I hope someday I will be able to compete at Miss Universe but sometimes I think it's impossible but I always use this as my inspiration. I'm 4'10 and I hope you'll see this. Thank you much love! 😀

Alyssa: Hi Rica and hello to the Philippines! First of all, since you are still 15, you may still grow a bit more! But at the end of the day, height does not matter. There have been plenty of shorter Miss Universes, even recently. It’s absolutely not impossible.
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Have a question for Alyssa? Whether you're seeking pageant tips or advice, curious about her experience as Miss USA, or just want to talk pageants, click here to "Ask Alyssa".

March 7, 2014December 5, 2018

10 Ways to be a Great Pageant Director

GUEST BLOG: Michelle Hanson, 2nd RU to Miss Texas 2013

A pageant director sets the foundation of your reign, creates the environment in which you develop, and ultimately influences your entire pageant experience.

I’ve been lucky enough to have had some absolutely incredible, giving, and caring pageant directors during my time.

I’ve also had a few bad apples in the bunch, one of which actually almost led me to give up my crown out of frustration and hurt.

I’ve been on both sides of the coin in the last 20 years, and I’ve seen so many different leadership styles in the process.

From those experiences, I set out to create a list of 10 Ways to be a Great Pageant Director from a Contestant’s Perspective.

1. Encouragement
Your actions, your words, and your enthusiasm set the standard for our experience, both as a contestant and a titleholder. Between the pressures of the competition day, the performance standards that are put on us by ourselves (and sometimes our families), and the personal drive to do well, it can sometimes feel like we are carrying a stone on our back. A calm demeanor, an uplifting spirit, and many intentional hugs (especially after competition) can make a world of difference. We value your opinion -- so please build us up any chance you get.

2. Set Expectations
It is hard to know our role when we don’t know what you want us to do. From the moment we first sit down to talk, let us know what you expect of us. If you want us to work hard, tell us. Though it seems common sense, you would be surprised how much setting down roles and expectations changes the feel and success of a year. Let us know how early you want us to be for appearances; set a calendar for deadlines. If you need us to get our own sponsors, that’s OK -- just let us know up front. If you promise us the world, please follow through with it. We rely on you too -- to provide, to be a role model, and to help us reach our personal goals. If you lead clearly, we will follow.

3. Forgive us
We are human. We will mess up, get stuck in traffic, and inevitably at some point let you down. Extend forgiveness with compassion, and we will do the same when the same thing happens on your end. Your understanding, empathy, and direction teaches us how to respond to others in the future. Through your kindness and firm guidance for those future situations, I will know how to handle a disgruntled coworker one day, a child who didn’t follow directions, and a friend who doesn’t follow through on a promise. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing bad actions or poor habits, but it does mean leading with love.

4. If you can’t teach, find
Some directors are amazing coaches. They can teach you to walk, interview skills, and (praise above) sometimes even pay for your wardrobe. Other times, directors have no personal pageant experience other than their love for the girls, can’t sing a tune, and are broke as a joke. It doesn’t matter which director you are, as long as you help me find the resources I need to be successful. If the pageant doesn’t have wardrobe funds, please help me find sponsors by making phone calls and making contacts. (And girls, be willing to do work too -- this is a dual effort!) Your willingness to find great people to help me succeed is just as valuable as doing those things yourself. Remember, Cinderella loved her fairy godmother for making her dreams come true!

MissFinals2779 (2) — Sending love from the stage to my support team during Miss Texas 2013 finals

5. Communicate
Text me, call me, let’s go to dinner. Forward state info as soon as you get it, and share with me what you hear, what you hope for, and where you find opportunities for me to grow. One of the best ways to form a bond between us is communicating. It shows that I can trust you, proves you have an open-door policy, and allows me to share my fears, concerns, hopes, and even wishes with you without fear of condemnation or laughter. If you see me doing something that isn’t “queenly” let me know (preferably with a little bit of that compassion from #3). If someone has communicated an idea to you, or brought gossip that you are unsure of, talk to me one on one first. Most of all, keep me up to date on appearance opportunities, state rules (no one likes to get in trouble), and dates that you need paperwork and who will be a “task” manager. You and I are a team, so let’s do what the best teams do and keep in constant contact. Besides, titleholders tend to be a chatty bunch anyway!

6. Look beyond the crown
The best directors I ever had focused my year way beyond the next phase of competition. They realized that my reign was about more than capturing that state or national crown, and focused on my personal development not as a titleholder, but as a young woman. Sure, learning to work a room and feel comfortable introducing myself will help at state. But it also helped prepare me for my career, and gave me the tools to stand out in professional networking events. Please help me to feel confident on the stage of life, not just the pageant stage. Teach me to love my body, not for how it looks in a swimsuit, but for how my arms embrace little ones who look up to me. Teach me to use my voice not for my own gain in interview and talent, but for advocating for the disenfranchised and forgotten. Teach me how to handle disappointment and loss, not to be a graceful looser on stage, but because the example I set when I am down will set a standard for how I deal with these things in my job, relationships, and family. Develop me to be a winner in life, not just in pageants.

Getting a group hug from a group of middle schoolers

7. Be my shield
Competing in any sport, field, or arena is tough. We could all use a knight in shining armor once in a while to guard us from that which can wound our hearts and minds. Please protect us from gossip, hurtful comments, message boards, and sometimes even parents. (They mean well, I know.) Shield us from ourselves, particularly when we want to diminish our performance with negative words or want to tear down others when we need to feel better about ourselves. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all -- usually a hug will suffice. Talk us up to other directors, wave our banner proudly in the audience even if we aren’t the best contestant on stage, and shout our progress to the skies. We could all use an armor of love.

8. Don’t be a queen
Let’s face it, the world of pageantry is competitive enough between contestants. Please don’t fight me for attention, or drag drama into my year. I will gladly crown you director, leader, and wise sage. In turn, I ask that you crown me with compassion, guidance, and low-anxiety motivation. There is enough cattiness on the message boards, between stage-parents, and the rest of the world’s perceptions of pageantry, so let’s change that stereotype starting with our relationship. My reign only lasts a year -- you hold the keys to the kingdom for as long as you are a director. How about we leave the drama at home, and focus on building each other up, promoting the system, and loving our sponsors instead?

9. Work hard, play hard
It takes a lot of work to be a director, and as a contestant I can only know the tip of the iceberg. You do so much more than we know. As a contestant I (should) know that this takes a lot for you, and I (should) be willing to give just as much back. So let’s work hard, and play hard too. Let’s have some fun, make some joyful memories, and focus on happiness throughout the process. Let’s have breakfast once in a while just to deepen our interpersonal bond. Let’s share some non-pageant stories and laugh about funny videos on the internet. Most of all, let’s not forget that directors can be more than a mentor -- they can be a friend, confidant, and inspiration for life.

Michelle and founder of The WARM Place, Peggy Bohme

10. Teamwork
A great director knows the value of teamwork. Every “team” is different: some have a board of directors, some have sponsors, some have princesses, sister titleholders, and even little princesses. Most have volunteers and unsung heroes, and all of them have one thing in common: people. We are all real people, with outside lives and commitments on our time. We all have dreams, stressors, and pet peeves. As a director, contestants look to you as the leader of our team, so teach, remind, and call us out on our teamwork. Foster growth, respect, and love. Tough love, guidance, and every single one of these points mentioned above are critical to forming a successful team. Don’t let us forget that it takes a village to raise a child, and a team to raise a leader.

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I feel the need to place a disclaimer at the end of this. The points I make above will not guarantee a you winning contestant, nor that you will always have a grateful, willing, or hardworking titleholder. (Contestants, that is on YOU.)

What I hope it will guarantee is a reputation as an incredible director, one who exemplifies the real meaning behind pageantry and that which it seeks to offer. Whether your girls win a title, or come home with no awards at all, you can make a difference in someone’s life, and as a former contestant, friend, consultant, and lover of pageants to this very day, that is the greatest “crown” that anyone can ask for.

Thank you for giving your all.

-Michelle Hanson

March 3, 2014December 5, 2018

Journey to the Crown – Devin Grissom

Hello World! My name is Devin Grissom.

I’m a pretty normal 22 year old who likes cats, football, traveling the world, and oh yeah—competing in pageants.

That last point is the reason why you’re reading this post right now. I have somehow been convinced to document any and all preparations for my upcoming pageant.

That’s right -- you are invited to be up close and personal to all of the ups, downs, triumphs, and many junk food-craving moments that will fall upon me this year.

If you have never competed in a pageant then be warned -- a few posts in and you will probably start to think I am a few fries short of a Happy Meal. However, if you have competed in pageants then you clearly know I won’t be stepping within 10 miles of a McDonalds until about .05 seconds after some lucky lady gets a crown on her head this fall (more on all this diet business later).

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About me

So before you commit to listening to my ramblings over the months ahead, how about I tell you all a little about myself and how I got to where I am now -- California -- if you were wondering.

I was born and raised in Memphis, TN by my precious, wonderful parents who have always supported me in everything I have wanted to do. I take that back – almost everything – but we aren’t quite to that point in my life yet (did I mention I am extremely all over the place?)

After 18 blissful years I decided to take my talents to Tuscaloosa (Lebron joke…anyone?) where I attended The University of Alabama and experienced 3 national championships in my 4 years, ROLL TIDE!

All of this was to my Dad’s absolute horror since he is a die-hard Tennessee Volunteer and we have - to put it nicely - dominated the 3^rd Saturday in October for the past seven seasons. Roll Tide again.

It was in Tuscaloosa that I decided I wanted to get back into the pageant business. Unfortunately, I literally gained the Freshman 100 – you’re not getting a picture to document that time in my life, just take my word for it.

Needless to say I had to put my “walking on stage in a bikini” dreams on hold until I had my fill of messy fries (Tuscaloosa staple—seriously worth it). Finally my sophomore year I decided it was time to compete – Miss Alabama USA here I come!

It just so happens that God yet again had other plans for my life.

I was given the opportunity to star in a brand new dating series on CMT called “Sweet Home Alabama” and that meant I had some serious decisions to make…

Who am I kidding? They asked my 20 year-old self if I wanted to take a month out of my year to date 20 cute guys?!

If the suspense is killing you…I said yes...thus putting the Miss Alabama USA pageant temporarily on hold.

I had the absolute time of my life. I met some amazing guys who continue to be great friends. The guy that I picked – Adam – is now adorably married (not to me just to clarify) and expecting his first little kiddo! Go Adam, so happy for you 🙂

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Miss Alabama USA 2013

Okay back to pageants! After the whirlwind that was CMT passed through my life, it was finally time to strap on the Chinese Laundry heels and butt glue. It was my Senior year at Alabama and I was definitely at a crossroads in my life. I just KNEW that this was the year all my dreams would come true.

I busted my butt at the gym for 6 months, found an absolutely stunning dress and honestly did just about everything I could do to win the Miss Alabama USA crown.

I even skipped Thanksgiving!!! No dressing or blackberry cobbler for Dev – now that’s commitment. When December 2012 finally arrived – I was more ready and confident than I had ever been.

Everything went exactly according to plan – except the result. I placed 1^st runner up to Mary Margaret McCord – and although I was disappointed, I couldn’t be prouder.

I mean have you SEEN that stunning gal? She is a 20 out of 10 and placed 1^st runner up at Miss USA 2013! (Does that technically make me an unofficial 2^nd runner up at Miss USA? No?)

Not even one week after the Miss Alabama USA pageant, I graduated from The University of Alabama. Graduating college is a huge step in every young person’s life and just like most people who came before me and most who will come after me...

I had no clue what to do.

I spent a couple of months on the job hunt before I got the call from my one of my best friends about a job opportunity. She worked/still works/now I work for an IT company called Barracuda. That opens up the next chapter in my life: California!

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California!

Don’t let the tech stereotype fool you -- I work for the absolutely coolest company in the universe. I do a little bit of everything for Barracuda including marketing, video production, events, social media, trade show presenting and much more.

In my first year I have traveled to just about every city in the United States, plus Barcelona, Dubai, London and Paris… Did I mention I’m only 22?!

Even with all of the excitement of building my career in California, around April of 2013 I caught the bug again. All of you pageant girls know what “the bug” is and what it feels like. I absolutely had to compete so I decided to sign up for my home state pageant, Miss Tennessee USA.

I made the assumption that it would be just as easy to workout, eat right and make all of my preparations as it had been when I was in college and had absolutely nothing to do besides go to class and sleep.

I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE WRONG IN MY LIFE.

It was a struggle from the beginning. As I have mentioned before, I travel a ton with my job. I absolutely love it and would not trade my travel experiences for the world. However, when you are a major foodaholic like myself, constantly traveling to new places and trying new amazing restaurants is TORTURE when trying to prepare for a pageant.

Also, finding time for all of the other little details needed to prepare was difficult as well. So I did the best that I thought I could - worked out when I could, ordered a dress online and hoped for the best.

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Miss Tennessee USA 2014

When October 2013 rolled around, I was in a completely different place mentally than I had been at Miss Alabama USA not even a year before. I knew that I had not done everything that I should have (and honestly COULD have) to be my very best.

It made me feel guilty that I had not pursued my dream with more determination and also much less confident than one should be going into pageant weekend.

Even so, the Miss USA system is incredible and Kim Greenwood’s team puts on a flawless weekend for all of the girls...so of course, I had a blast.

Meeting all of the awesome contestants is definitely always a highlight for me at any pageant. It truly makes you feel inspired to be around such a big group of accomplished and beautiful ladies (special shout out to Sarah Stonier and Lauren Ledford for being AWESOME!)

When finals night came around I really didn’t know what to expect. Interviews went great (I got to meet Herschel Walker!!) and I was feeling pretty good after prelim competition, but with pageants you really just never know. By the end of the night I was in the Top 5 and absolutely freaking out, I couldn’t believe it!

I ended up placing 3^rd runner up and truly was content – I knew I did not deserve to win. Congrats again to ALL of the girls who competed but especially to Kristy Landers Niedenfuer for winning the crown. You are going to be a stunning representative of Tennessee at Miss USA 2014!

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The Present

I walked away from the Miss Tennessee USA 2014 pageant with a determination that I would try one competing more time and give it my absolute all, no matter what the obstacles that may stand in my way. That’s where this blog comes in.

I am putting my preparations out there for the world to see. The main reason, honestly, is to keep me motivated and on track while I navigate through the struggles to following my dream of becoming Miss USA and also pursuing my career.

So what can you expect of me in these coming months?

Each month I'll set specific monthly goals that will help me move closer to attaining my overall goal of being 100% prepared to win my next pageant. To stay accountable, I'll also set weekly "sub-goals" that I will try to achieve as I go along.

After outlining my monthly and weekly goals for you, I'll document (with photos, videos, and text) and keep you informed of my ups and -- hopefully not so many -- downs for that week 🙂

So for all you readers out there I have a few favors...

If you think pageants are silly or a waste of time then I hope you get more than a few belly laughs out of my coming experiences- I won’t be holding anything back.

If you are in the process of preparing for a pageant as well then please feel free to reach out and ask me any questions you have or even to tell me something I am doing is completely crazy. There are no right or wrong answers when preparing to compete on any type of stage but I think it’s great to have a community to talk to about it—event if it’s just to say YOU AREN’T ALONE.

For everyone—I would seriously love to know what you guys think, feel free to write comments below the post or reach out to me on Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook!

So I guess I will see you guys next month! Until then… I’m hitting the gym (ugh.)